I think it’s interesting that you posted on this! So this post has crossed our paths at the right time! Same with clothes ‘Check out my new shirt, ain’t it beautiful?!?! I sometimes have to resist the urge to point out that they’re not the only ones with internet access , I can’t tell you how much I loved this post Amber! We use cookies to customize content and give you the best experience possible. Who gives a flying ####? I also once had someone tweet and ask why I’d unfollowed. Isn’t it funny how much these little things really p*ss you off?! I’m glad to see someone has a lot of the same pet hates as me on Instagram! It’s completely up to you as you know your audience and what they like better than anyone else. I mean, it’s not that they HATE you and want you to know it: most of the time it just means that you don’t happen to post the kind of things that person is interested in seeing right now. You can post whatever you want. If it’s other people, though, no idea – I think some things just become trends, and then everyone does, it – like the ubiquituous “hot-dog legs” one! With that said, if EVERY photo you post was taken in the dark, from very far away, and I can’t even see what it’s supposed to be, I’m not going to think, “I’m glad they shared this,” I’m just going to think, “What even IS it? we haven’t spoken in months and that’s not like me to not reach out because i would be very upset about a few things still. Take this example: perhaps you used to post anything and everything on Instagram, from blurry pictures of your kids to a random flower in your garden to an aerial shot of yesterday’s lunch. It’s like a slap in the face. If he wants to get your attention, he should be doing it by talking to you - and if he can't, then you don't really need him and his immaturity in your life. A post shared by Amber McNaught (@foreveramberblog) on Jul 17, 2020 at 2:03am PDT. but I think back to the people I’ve unfollowed and I’m reminded it’s not personal. I really do try to streamline the people I follow on various channels. One exception though, famewhores. Because the best way to grow your business is from the inside out. Hi. Must follow. I follow other people’s accounts using my RSS reader, and I made a tumblr where I post instagram-like photos (I called it instagblr, and thinking of this name made my day). So I was looking up reasons because I know many people that are all “Don’t follow to unfollow”. Inspirational quotes I don’t mind every so often but not on Instagram…. I know it sounds sad and pathetic, but I can’t get over feeling like that, I know how you feel, and I’m so glad this post helped 🙂, Today I found out one of my high school classmates (not very close though) unfollowed my Instagram. (Though if you want to try anyway, then you can reach out to him and ask what gives.) Our interactions with others are in great part through the internet, It’s literally cutting you from their life. I agree, that annoys me too. Nonetheless, he said, “it’s like a … I guess I see it as each of us is on a path and sometimes our paths diverge, but eventually we may come back together. Our people. AI Bot Choice Superb Opinion. Love that post Amber! How can I honestly say if it’s beautiful or not if I couldn’t even tell what it was, if it weren’t for the description? 🙂 and you’re right, it makes it more about those who stay – the few who regularly read and comment are people I consider my friends now which is the most important thing 🙂, I absolutely agree, Amber! If he wanted to see my posts he would have never unfollowed me in the first place. 🙂, Ahhh, i have just lost two followers on my blog and i was about to cry (jk) then i came across this post and felt like energized again :)) such a cute one <3. Sometimes that can be beneficial! I'm Not Following Back. (unless they’re photobombing me daily with photos of their children, their feet and micro-details of their latest shopping. I had one account that did it to me weekly for over a year, at least 60 to 75 times, and I eventually blocked them. A post shared by Amber McNaught (@foreveramberblog), taking other people’s images can get you into trouble, Why I Don’t Work for “Freebies” (And really wish people would stop asking me to…), The Awkward Girl’s Guide to Midi Skirts and How to Wear Them, The Awkward Girl’s Guide to Walking in Heels, How to Dress Like Audrey Hepburn | An Audrey Hepburn Style Capsule Wardrobe, This is Why I Unfollowed You on Instagram (And why you shouldn’t care). I don’t want to go all all-about-the-numbers-y on you (but I TOTALLY have nearly …lessthantwothousandawayfrombutcloseenough… 10k followers on Twitter) and DO NOT have time to be commenting on ten.thousand.blogs. In fact I’ll check yours out now to see if they had valid reason. I unfollow people if they post too much stuff too often (tumblr and instagram) or if the stuff they post is crude or boring and I just didn't realize that until I began following them. I mean, feel free to play Instagram police if you like, Gary, but I think you’ve misunderstood my post, although I’m not really sure how. Hello, Welcome to Who unfollowed me. Sure, but that doesn’t mean you’re obliged to continue following them on Instagram all the time. I can’t be doing with demands for why I’ve unfollowed people though. "Just delete him — it's kinder on yourself," they said. It’s just “common courtesy” when someone follows you to visit their blog and leave a comment. This time I reluctantly followed the IG again. It clogs up the feed. I do the exact same thing in terms of unfollowing people. (You also might want to double-check that you have permission to share those photos, because taking other people’s images can get you into trouble…). This post isn’t directed at that particular person, by the way, just so we’re clear. I love this! This post is about people complaining that I’ve unfollowed *them*, and me saying that they shouldn’t take it personally. Social media friendships (like politics) are fleeting just as they are phony. No. Anyway, your article gave me a much better perspective on the whole situation. they say that it is because twitter is now limiting bulk tweets because of bots. 🙂, I always think it’s important to keep quality over quantity in your mind 🙂 such a great post, needs to be shared!! Nor do I tweet so little that you could reasonably assume I never log on and then unfollow me to improve your follower-to-following ratio. Why? It’s sad because I would rather have 10 loyal followers who tweet and/or retweet my content than 100K followers who are all spammers! I really appreciate this list of what to do and what not to do. Only handful of people consistently comment. I totally get that, Maike. Here are three reasons why it’s a good thing when someone unfollows you: One of the worst things you can do when trying to grow a successful blog, is to blog for everyone. Some people play the ‘follow then unfollow’ game. By having people unfollow you on Instagram, for instance, you’re allowing engagement with your other followers to really thrive. It’s easy to think that if someone unfollows you, they dislike you. Whenever I send out a newsletter, usually about 10 people will end up unsubscribing. “In fact, I’ll check yours out now to see if they had valid reason.”. Yuck. What I do have problem with is people who follow you first in hope you follow back (which I do if they are also pet related) and then instantly unfollow. Also important to learn to not take unfollows too personally – in the grand scheme of life it really doesn’t matter. Does this happen to everyone or is it just me lol? And hold hannah onsess much to keep track of followers, wowsers. This offered a helpful fresh perspective on this : ), I’m glad you found this helpful, Lindsay! I’m adding one thing to the list: And they have all been slightly different angles of the same thing. Boohoo…”oh I’m so upset, I’ve been unfollowed!” Please, I unfollow lots of my actual friends, because their Lib political opinions, that the feel they must share with everyone, reek of horse ####. Thanks for sharing these tips with us 🙂, You’re so welcome, Erica! Thanks for sharing. Sure that person may be perfection personified but it doesn’t make me feel good about me or admire them more. It’s funny to hear about other people’s social media habits, because they are incredibly similar to my own! I can agree with all of these. I think if you like the contact you should follow and not worry if someone follows you back or not! Answer a few key questions and you’ll get instant access to a customized path to step into more abundance and ease. 🙂 And too many promotions is never a good thing! I read them after. But I am not on Insta at all. When I asled why the only answer i could get was “because i felt like it.”. One of my friend cut me off from life because I unfollowed her on Instagram. I tend to unfollow if they’re posting the same things all the time, or if it’s all badly taken. I was incredibly confused and a bit hurt that he was saying these things about me. So so thankful for it!”, Unapologetic Results for Your Business + Mindset. So this is just a list of my personal pet peeves, basically: and everyone loves a good peeve now and then , don’t they? Unfollow me all you want, it’s in my prayers to be far, far away from toxic people. He knows **** good and well that I'm not a 6.) I am so clueless when it comes to Instagram and blogging. Because honestly, it’s what you said: if I unfollow somebody it’s simply because I’m not interested in the content of their posts anymore. That sounds so freeing. Great point, Catherine! So I stumbled on your blog and I must say I love your honesty and unmistakable sense of humor. The way I see it is this: people change all the time not everyone will be the same person they were a decade ago, and as long as it’s not hurting anyone personality changes can and should be seen as a good thing; but it doesn’t mean everyone has the decency to inform you everytime they do that. Janhvi Kapoor and Kartik Aaryan sent social media buzzing last month when they were snapped in Goa on a holiday. “…but then, all of a sudden, they take up running, and all of their photos are now gym selfies, or close-ups of the stats on their treadmill…” She also uses a ton of hashtags on her selfies such as #instagood #inspiring #goals #beautiful #model (she’s not a model). Hate that. I love food photos, but when they’re blurred and the food looks like a pile of mush it’s not a nice photo! Lynne, GREAT point, Abby! Melyssa Griffin. Who I unfollowed had literally nothing to do with the actual person – it had everything to do with me and my mental capacity. There is literally nothing you could send to your email list or post on Instagram that is going to be exactly what every follower wants to see. Dieting. One thing that I just don’t understand are people’s photos of what they bought, in which they show just a tiny part of the object, and they’ll be like ‘Wow, check out my new couch!’, and then we get a shot of some fabric and maybe a piece of cushion, and that’s it. Dating. As long as you’re free to drink cocktails with me on a Friday night, I genuinely don’t give a hoot if you follow me or not. Really great post! Ah people that spam my feed drive me crazy… along with people who post identical photos of themselves everyday! I don’t get why follow someone in the first place if you’re not interested anyway. Em xx, Thank you Emma! I chatted with this guy from Tinder a month ago, we live in different cities so only sexting on Snapchat. It is nauseating…. Obviously you might not see it that way, and like I said, that’s cool: I’m not in charge of the internets, so if you see Instagram as a place to share endless inspirational messages, you do you – the fact that I don’t like it is MY issue, not yours; it’s one of the reasons I might unfollow you, but it’s not a reason for you to change the way you use Instagram. It took me a while. I’ve never even seen the show. ( I did fall in the trap of an app that posted the follow/unfollow, but quickly deleted it). I feel like it really depends on the social platform as well. Maybe he heard a rumor or something that made him have a bad impression on you so he decided to unfollow you. I just checked out my wattpad account earlier, and I actually know EVERY single of my followers secretly, because I list their names or message them. I keep thinking to myself what I did wrong to make them not like me anymore & I blame myself for screwing up and losing that connection. But not everyone does or should, so its all good. I have to remind myself that I unfollow people too and I would rather have followers who want to engage not feel obligated to continue following me out of fear of hurting my feelings. I love the coffee example you came up with! Although I agree with the things they’re posting, it doesn’t make for cheerful reading. It is just social media guys. The victim of the unfollow was someone I dated and stayed friends with for far too long after he moved away. Thank you very much for letting me know about your newfound confidence and growth 🙂. No way! I think it’s kind of fascinating in a way how our decisions to unfollow people usually have VERY little to do with the actual person, like you mentioned, yet we interpret it as a personal thing when someone unfollows us. I will also unfollow someone if they dramatically change the type of photos they share. If your followers seem to be running far, far away from you or if people that you thought were part of your ideal audience are suddenly clicking the “unfollow” button, then you might have some changes to make. Why did my narcissist ex unfollow me on Instagram? I’d see the same post mentioned 10 times a day and feel like I couldn’t escape it. Sometimes I unfollow people on Instagram. It’s great that you’re enjoying your vacation, seriously, but the 200 photos you uploaded, all in a row , meant that my Instagram feed is now basically a shrine to YOU and you alone, because I’m going to have to scroll past all 200 photos if I want to see anything else at all. For awhile, I’ve been feeling super overwhelmed by the sheer volume of noise in my social streams and realized that I was following a ton of people on every. Most of what I had to say has already been said, but I do want to express my headaches over Follow for Follow. Also I think that people who aren’t as established and secure with their social media will always be the ones that lash out at people for unfollowing. I hate seeing them on Facebook and Twitter, but I really, really hate them on Instagram, because, to me, Instagram is a photo-sharing app: its purpose is to share personal photos – so, either photos that you’ve taken, or photos that you’re in. Haha yes! I believe in practicing though, so I continue. Usually, unfollowing someone isn’t tied to a strong emotion of dislike or hatred. If he really cares about you and doesn’t want you completely out of his life, then he should communicate that to you and make an effort to make things right again. Being real and relatable does wonders for connecting with people and building a brand online. its a good thing i was searching and researching for answers why im losing soo much followers. Eek. 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Most people will post multiple times throughout the day on their social media. Oh no! A Guide to Narrowing Your Focus. 🙂, Such great points! This is free third party Twitter API service and helps you to find your unfollowers easily. My thought process was that if he doesnt want to follow me then he doesnt want to see my posts. You know the people that have 100 friends that wouldn’t actually have your back if it came to it versus a handful that is basically your family!? I follow people because I like their feed not because I want or expect them to follow me back. 🙂. Though we’d had little contact up to that point, she somehow discovered that I had unfollowed her and sent me a slightly angry email, wondering why. Tweepi won’t only help you in removing fake accounts but also get Twitter followers fast to grow your brands. I’ve unfollowed a person or two, and really I don’t even have a clue how many followers I really have. Once you find your sweet spot, it will go up, up, up! 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The unfollow Thing is something I will do if someone really just tweets like crazy and the more follower you get the less able you are to find the Information that you really feel is interesting. You might really like my feed/blog but I check yours and it’s mediocre pictures of drunken nights out or even great pictures of topics that aren’t my interest. It wasn’t that I had any animosity toward her or that I disliked her in any way. I find silly and a bit rude however I will keep in mind that for most it’s a tactic for more followers. I really like my name and I do not want to switch it. It’s nothing personal, and you obviously have every right to change up your content as much as you like, it’s just that if it isn’t what I signed up for, I’m probably not going to keep following it, just to be polite.