I totally agree with you, Murtaza. Jazakallahu Khairyin for this post… I am a revert and this post was truly a guidance….Filled with hurt my heart feels so heavy due to Mental Abuse. Wa alaikum as salam, Bibah. Yes, I totally agree with you. As for me these are chronic issues that needs attention of its own, because a home is a nucleus of community. And now i don’t care he lives or dies. His videos are widely shared across different online channels such as Youtube & Facebook as well as his quotes on Instagram, Pinterest & Tumblr, as he dishes out timely advice and good reminders … And now she is like always rude to me and my family members. Islam teaches us to protect ourselves from harm. I believe that if you are seeking advice, then it is ok to talk about other’s wrongdoings. Thank you for this article. I don’t know what I can do about this situation. Wa alaikum as salam, Linia. Dear Hadia, wa iyaa kum and thank you for sharing your story. You can respectfully explain to them what they are doing that is disturbing you. Now the doctor said that we should send him to the psychiatric hospital and he should stay there . You are just securig your self and children but then you are also benefiting from the money he get because he is giving you are you part of his sins if he sinned? Let me again tell u my father has a very good salary Alhamdulilla . Also remember that you are not alone and that many people suffer from toxic family relationships. Dispose your dreams! May Allahu SWT continue to use him/her to light other peoples candle. Dear Hadia, I do not believe that you need to suffer. The quotes regarding obedience to your parents etc are repeated over and over and offer no counselling or hope on how to deal with situations like this, which in my case, involve my parents. I look forward to hearing from you. Think that you are protecting your mental health in order to do your duties as a Muslim. Sep 5, 2014 - Quotes about dysfunctional family life. May Allah bless you too dear. Jazzakallah Khair to the Writer. Thank you so much for your kind and wise comment. Excellent compilation.Sounds little elaborate & scattered.A more copmpact & concise presentation would have been more eye catching & mind holding but may b d topic was large enuf \7 needed coverage on that larger scale.Jazakallah. Tomoshi, thank you for your comment and question. assalamualaikum.. i see “physically abuse” bu what about mentally? I am a Muslim . How do you relieve yourself of that feeling? Thank you for your comment. May Allah protect us from toxic people and help everyone become better people. Marriage should improve our Aakhirah, not destroy it. my father calls me and my little sister (who I’m helping become a better Muslim) terrorists and Al-Qaeda for planning to fast 6 days of Shawwal and practicing Islam according to how it should be practiced, and not cherry picking and mixing culture with the deen. My father said to me many times to go out from this house but i am here for my mother. Humiliated you in public and wants you to sit there as she abuses, teases you and looks for the spot that will emotionally hurt the most. May Allah reward you for all your difficulties, for surely, they were not in vein! Part 3 of this article will discuss boundaries and other coping ideas in more detail. mentally and psychologically? The answer to this complex situation requires a lot of duaas and prayers and in shaa Allah the way will become clear to you. Also, do not take the toxic behavior of family members personally. Adult children feel an obligation to stay connected even when it goes against their best interest. Because finally, I’m posting some inspirational and beautiful Islamic quotes about life with pictures. Thank you for your article and for a balanced view point. sometimes I fear that I won’t enter Jannah because she is always reactive and upset and I’m losing my cool and patience is wearing thin. Do everything possible to try to improve this most important relationship. We have sought the opinion of a shaikh but we feel that it’s not right! Therefore, if your dream makes you feel good, it is a blessing from Allah (swt) and we should be thankful to Allah (swt) for our dreams. What if I am becoming the toxic family member that others need to deal with? “An owner slapped his female slave in the face, and the Prophet ordered him to free her as compensation.” 7, A’ishah (the Prophet’s wife) said, “The Messenger of Allah never struck a servant of his with his hand, nor did he ever hit a woman.” 8, It was asked of the Prophet : What do you say (command) about our wives? Please email me at [email protected]. And now they blame my parents that they are responsible for the separation. In Islam, blood ties are still important and our duty to family does come before our duty to others. Ameen. Wa iyaa kum dear Sis. May Allah reward you Sumer for you hard work and taking time to respond. May Allah swt reward you for this . Remember to not “overburden” yourself. Remember – it’s not about you. ;( . Thank you, Gul, for your kind words. If He is Financially irresponsible. How to Deal with Toxic Family Members from Islamic and Counseling Sources [Part II], Qur’an and Our Youth: How to bring the Qur’an close to their Hearts, Using Cognitive Behavioral Theory to be a Happier Muslim, Improving Child Discipline is Improving Ourselves. Dear Sis. Islamic Quotes – Hey Guys Asalaam Alaikum. I hope that your living situation will improve in shaa Allah. If they request something from you, you can respect their requests (as long as they are reasonable and permissible in Islam). Wa iyaa kum, Yati. Showing kindness to family members is highly rewarded, but at the same time, we need to take care of ourselves so that we can be kind, healthy people in the long-run. Just because someone is your family doesn. May Allah reward you. Toxic Family Members: More Ideas from Islamic … Thank you for your comment. Amazing response. These matters are usually complicated, which is why I tried to give a variety of ideas in part 2 of this article. Anyways, He says what ever he wants to , no matter how wrong he is. (Al-Anfal, 8:46), Our Prophet  said, “It is sin enough for you not to cease quarreling.” 4. living with family members is enough, take care of urself, if u make ur self care u will be at peace with toxic family members behavior. I was in dire need of such an important article! Feeling so emotional right now. It brings upon one the wrath of Allah the All-Mighty and makes one's wealth devoid of barakah and blessings. Mufti Menk is a famous Islamic scholar who is highly-respected, especially among the Muslim community here in Singapore. Our Prophet  said, “Religion is very easy and whoever overburdens himself in his religion will not be able to continue in that way. (Fussilat, 41:53). Wa iyaa kum, Ikram. Also, do not take the toxic behavior of family members personally. Even when I cry (I do that a lot these days), they say I am pretending. Wa alaikum as salam, Fara. »» I hate it when people say, “they're still your family.”. How to Deal with Toxic Family Members from Islamic and Counseling Sources [Part I], Qur’an and Our Youth: How to bring the Qur’an close to their Hearts, Using Cognitive Behavioral Theory to be a Happier Muslim, Improving Child Discipline is Improving Ourselves. This is particularly where shaytan works to destroy the strength of community, relationship, etc. Because reading aytul kursi with trust ,Allah makes us safe ,there is no chances that dream comes from saitan . You can tell family members what kind of behaviors you will not accept from them. Alhamdulillah. This is a difficult situation. The write up is of immense help. They believe they’re always right because they are the elders. Cause stress, anxiety, anger, confusion, exhaustion, and self-doubt in others.